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Author:  Rodahn [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 6:09 pm ]
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Not just modern versions of chivalry, but also the inclusion of archaic chivalry in a modern setting.

Anyway, in your opinion, is it a good quality, or dorky?
Author:  Micheal [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 6:13 pm ]
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Good, though some can make it appear dorky.

Courtesy, manners, and defending those who cannot defend themselves? It may fly against the me first attitude of many moderns, but I usually don't care for them much anyway.
Author:  Lenas [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 6:39 pm ]
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Being well-mannered or courteous should never be considered dorky. You open a door (etc) for the lady, that's how I was brought up, that's how it's gonna be.
Author:  Rodahn [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 6:50 pm ]
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I open the door for anyone -- man woman or child. It's not really a conscious effort at all, just automatic for me. Dunno if that counts as chivalry tho.

I've generally seen past the whole treating women like delicate flowers thing. Many get offended and give the whole "I can do it myself" attitude, as well as the fact that women in general are far more independent now than ever.
Author:  FarSky [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 6:51 pm ]
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Lenas wrote:
Being well-mannered or courteous should never be considered dorky. You open a door (etc) for the lady, that's how I was brought up, that's how it's gonna be.

This.
Author:  darksiege [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 7:13 pm ]
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Lenas wrote:
Being well-mannered or courteous should never be considered dorky. You open a door (etc) for the lady, that's how I was brought up, that's how it's gonna be.


^^

This.
Author:  Nitefox [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 9:32 pm ]
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Going with Farsky and DS.

It's funny, I had a small talk with my daughter the other day about this. She is getting to the age where she thinks boys are cute and things like that. I told her that when she starts dating, that if the boy doesn't open doors for you then to drop him like a hot rock.
Author:  Rodahn [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 9:39 pm ]
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I think people make way too big a deal out of the whole door opening thing LOL.

There are so many more ways to respect others.
Author:  Diamondeye [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 10:12 pm ]
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Courtesy is a good thing, to be encouraged. What I dislike is smooth-asses that are pretending to be excessively gentlemanly because they can't let a girl pass by without trying to put the moves on her, and people that hold up traffic and cause accidents being "courteous" when they would be more so to keep moving and get out of the way.
Author:  Micheal [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 10:24 pm ]
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Like I said, some people make it look dorky, some even make it look slimy.

Doesn't mean we shouldn't try anyway.
Author:  Darkroland [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 10:39 pm ]
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Unfortunately, what a thing should be considered and it's actual perception are not the same.
Author:  DFK! [ Wed Aug 11, 2010 11:30 pm ]
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Author:  Rynar [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 3:57 am ]
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FarSky wrote:
Lenas wrote:
Being well-mannered or courteous should never be considered dorky. You open a door (etc) for the lady, that's how I was brought up, that's how it's gonna be.

This.



I'm bigger and stronger. I have a higher tolerance for pain. It is more socially acceptable for me to bear scars. I'm the head of my household, and the leader of my pack. I'll stand in front. I'll take the blame. I'll take the punch. I'll hold the door. I'm the one who farted. You are my best friend, and I would never ask you to bear those things when I know I can bear them better, if not in truth, then in the eyes of the world, which makes it a truth unto itself. No, I know you don't need me to. You handled it before me, and you'll handle it when I'm gone, I love you, and that is one of the reasons why.
Author:  Nevandal [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 4:18 am ]
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Love Dave Chappelle.

I open doors for women and I'm very polite and friendly...but I don't force it, it just naturally comes out. If I forget to open a door every once in a while, that's cool too, I don't make an exaggerated effort to jump in front of women to open doors or anything, it's just a nice thing to do. 80% of the time if the lady is [considers herself] attractive, she thinks I'm just doing it to get into her pants...lol.

Rynar wrote:
FarSky wrote:
Lenas wrote:
Being well-mannered or courteous should never be considered dorky. You open a door (etc) for the lady, that's how I was brought up, that's how it's gonna be.

This.



I'm bigger and stronger. I have a higher tolerance for pain. It is more socially acceptable for me to bear scars. I'm the head of my household, and the leader of my pack. I'll stand in front. I'll take the blame. I'll take the punch. I'll hold the door. I'm the one who farted. You are my best friend, and I would never ask you to bear those things when I know I can bear them better, if not in truth, then in the eyes of the world, which makes it a truth unto itself. No, I know you don't need me to. You handled it before me, and you'll handle it when I'm gone, I love you, and that is one of the reasons why.


thirded
Author:  Raltar [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 4:22 am ]
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I don't give either gender special treatment. I hold open doors for men and women, both old and young. But what I don't do is let people move into my lane when a lane up ahead is about to close. **** should have merged way back. I hate you and I hope you die of aids you mother ****.
Author:  Rynar [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 4:26 am ]
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Raltar wrote:
...what I don't do is let people move into my lane when a lane up ahead is about to close. **** should have merged way back. I hate you and I hope you die of aids you mother ****.


^ Truth.

/flashes beard-guy gang signs
Author:  Kirra [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 6:33 am ]
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I like it when a man opens a door for me, I think that is very nice. I don't expect it, and wait for it though. I will also open doors for men. Chivalry can be very nice to a certain point, and then it just gets weird. Sitting in a car until the guy gets out and comes around to open mine is weird to me, does that ever happen anymore? Pulling my chair out or letting me sit first at a restaurant is nice also, or holding an elevator door for me, that is an awsome one, like that alot.


We have a Pharmasist at work that I just love..when ever I call him for something I need stat or anything he says "your wish is my command". Lol, he makes calling fun! I think most girls appreciate chivalry because it makes them feel special.

PS if a guy opens a door for me..even an extremely hot one..I don't assume he wants to get in my pants. There are other things he does that make me assume that :p I think you are overthinking things, Nev.
Author:  Kirra [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 7:03 am ]
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Just watched the Dave Chappelle clip..omg he is hilarious!

Are guys happy with just 4 things? ;)
Author:  Hopwin [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 7:53 am ]
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That depends, standing up when a lady gets up from the table and when she returns is pretty effing dorky.
Author:  Lex Luthor [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 8:27 am ]
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Hopwin wrote:
That depends, standing up when a lady gets up from the table and when she returns is pretty effing dorky.


Everything that is a faux pas is really cool in my opinion. Don't get rid of dorky personality quirks. They are a good topic of conversation and make you stand out.
Author:  Tolyn [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 8:32 am ]
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There are days when I want to say f it all and stop being nice. However, the world has enough buttheads in it and doesn't need one more. Plus, it goes against my nature. Yes, I believe in chivalry, even today.
Author:  Hopwin [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 8:34 am ]
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Lex Luthor wrote:
Hopwin wrote:
That depends, standing up when a lady gets up from the table and when she returns is pretty effing dorky.


Everything that is a faux pas is really cool in my opinion. Don't get rid of dorky personality quirks. They are a good topic of conversation and make you stand out.

Please come back and talk to me when you've had a girlfriend.
Author:  Monte [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 9:13 am ]
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As someone who is very fond of chivalry, I know for sure it's not dead. Like Latin, however, not a lot of people speak the language. Also, it bears more of a resemblance to Victorian notions of Chivalry than medieval notions.

People should open doors for one another. Male, female, whatever. Because it's nice to do. It's a random act of kindness, and I'm all about that stuff. If you are opening the door for someone because you want to get in their pants, that's not so much chivalry. :)

Rynar - pretty sure Women have a higher pain tolerance.
Author:  Sasandra [ Thu Aug 12, 2010 9:31 am ]
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I’m going to go with mostly annoying here, someone holds the door open for me that’s fine, if they stand there waiting to hold the door for me when I’m still a good 20-30 seconds away it’s creepy unless they are my girlfriend, most other stuff I find annoying, like a butch friend of mine was in my car one time and I stopped for gas and she’s like you don’t pump your own gas when your with a butch, of course my response is I don’t think so, my car, I’m pumping the gas.

Generally if it’s a macho guy type attitude it annoys me, regardless if it’s from a guy or not.
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