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| Author: | LadyKate [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 8:24 am ] |
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....that life is not fair. I always heard that growing up, every time I was upset about something and cried, "But that's not fair!" and the response I got was always along the lines of, "Life is not fair." Some of those old cliches go in one ear and out the other but once you become an adult and experience things for yourself, you begin to see why some of these sayings have been around for so long. They really mean something. Life is not fair. The good guy doesn't always win, bad tings DO happen to good people, there are people that are going to dislike you for no good reason no matter how hard you try, and there are people that you cannot talk out of being mean and the Golden rule doesn't work...you're going to have to defend yourself verbally and sometimes physically. On a related, and unrelated note, I find it funny that we spend our entire childhood being told to obey without question and then as adults we are taught to question everything and think for ourselves. I'm still trying to come up with a good answer for that one...hopefully I'm able to learn that one and pass on the answer before I die. What are some of the things you have learned (or finally come to understand from what your parents told you) that you'd like to pass on? What are some of the life lessons that you are still learning and/or struggling with? |
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| Author: | TheRiov [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 8:27 am ] |
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I think we should teach that though life isn't fair, it doesn't mean it isn't something to strive for. |
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| Author: | Hopwin [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 8:54 am ] |
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Lesson 1: Kharma isn't real. What is real is that bad people tend to cluster together because, in the long-run, no one else wants to be around them resulting in bad things happening. On the flip-side if you want good in your life, be a good person and in turn people will be drawn to you, then (and here's the tricky part) if you can learn to tell the good people from the bad people good things will come your way. |
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| Author: | Darkroland [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 9:37 am ] |
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I think you made your own point, LK. You were told that life wasn't fair plenty of times, but never really believed it until it happened. Unfortunately, some things can't be taught verbally, you just have to experience them for yourself. The alternative would be if you started treating your kid unfairly all the time, but that seems kind of extreme. 
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| Author: | Oonagh [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 9:56 am ] |
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I don't believe that life is based on fair or unfair. I believe it to be based on choice. |
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| Author: | Kirra [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:08 am ] |
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I want any children I have to learn to be a person that is confident and happy with themself and with what is inside. I want them to have values of kindness and compassion. I think these are building blocks and good comes from these traits. |
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| Author: | Aizle [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:12 am ] |
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My mother shocked many people when she was asked this around a bunch of other mothers and instead of saying that she wanted me to be happy or caring or healthy, that she wanted me to be skeptical. |
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| Author: | Khross [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:16 am ] |
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The most important thing any child can learn is the consequences of their own actions; in particular, they need to learn the human consequences of their own actions. In fact, that's probably the single most important thing anyone can learn. |
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| Author: | Kirra [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:28 am ] |
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Lol, Khross....I can't tell you how many times my Dad said that to me... "Well, if you do that, you are going to have to live with the results!" I didn't learn that lesson easily. 
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| Author: | Khross [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 10:46 am ] |
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Kirra wrote: I didn't learn that lesson easily. I can't say it's an easy lesson, Kirra. In truth, learning the lesson perfectly means transcending the boundaries of your own humanity. In general, learning this lesson means you have to think about everyone else before you think about yourself; and that can be its own kind of trap.
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| Author: | Hopwin [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 11:19 am ] |
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Lesson 2: The toilet and proper usage... |
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| Author: | Arathain Kelvar [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 12:12 pm ] |
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Number one thing I want my kid to learn is confidence. |
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| Author: | Kirra [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 12:15 pm ] |
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Don't "toot" in public |
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| Author: | Elmarnieh [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 4:04 pm ] |
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Responsibility, what it means for the self, how to identify actions which show it in others and what the lack of it usually leads to. |
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| Author: | Lenas [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 4:07 pm ] |
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I want my child to understand how to solve problems and think critically. |
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| Author: | Rynar [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 4:32 pm ] |
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To be self-reliant and responsible. To take ownership of their actions, good and bad, and to accept the concequences of those actions. |
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| Author: | Hopwin [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 5:48 pm ] |
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Lesson 3: don't waste time waiting for the other shoe to drop. |
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| Author: | Lydiaa [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 7:48 pm ] |
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Couple of things I learnt from my parents. While money isn’t the start all and end all, it hard to live a happy life without any of it. Work smart, not work hard. Do what is right, not what is popular. You can’t help others if you can’t first set yourself up in a position to help. It is okay to be selfish sometimes, but not always. Real friends are the rarest things in this world, when you find one, cherish it like your own life. Sometimes it’s not love, just passion/lust. Give things time and true love will not fade. Stop thinking about the problem, start thinking of a solution. There’s so many more things my parents taught me, hard to put it all down on paper. |
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| Author: | Lex Luthor [ Tue Mar 22, 2011 11:05 pm ] |
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I did all my homework, got a good job, that's about it. Maybe I unconsciously learned other important things but nothing I can think of. Khross wrote: The most important thing any child can learn is the consequences of their own actions; in particular, they need to learn the human consequences of their own actions. In fact, that's probably the single most important thing anyone can learn. I think this is learned inevitably for every person regardless of parenting. |
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| Author: | Vindicarre [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 2:49 am ] |
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You can't escape yourself, so be true to yourself. |
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| Author: | Midgen [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 2:50 am ] |
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Lex Luthor wrote: I did all my homework, got a good job, that's about it. Maybe I unconsciously learned other important things but nothing I can think of. I never did any homework, ever, in any level of education, and I got a good job anyway :p Lex Luthor wrote: Khross wrote: The most important thing any child can learn is the consequences of their own actions; in particular, they need to learn the human consequences of their own actions. In fact, that's probably the single most important thing anyone can learn. I think this is learned inevitably for every person regardless of parenting.I think you'd be wrong. Many people die before they learn this lesson, and some live long lives despite never really completely understanding this. |
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| Author: | Lex Luthor [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 7:27 am ] |
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Midgen wrote: Lex Luthor wrote: I did all my homework, got a good job, that's about it. Maybe I unconsciously learned other important things but nothing I can think of. I never did any homework, ever, in any level of education, and I got a good job anyway :p Really? If that's true then that's pretty sweet. |
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| Author: | Taskiss [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 9:10 am ] |
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You can have anything you want out of life. You just have to earn it. |
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| Author: | Midgen [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 11:07 am ] |
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Lex Luthor wrote: Midgen wrote: Lex Luthor wrote: I did all my homework, got a good job, that's about it. Maybe I unconsciously learned other important things but nothing I can think of. I never did any homework, ever, in any level of education, and I got a good job anyway :p Really? If that's true then that's pretty sweet. My school district had a strict no-homework policy (when I was attending Jr. and Sr. high school). The only real exception might be if we were given a reading assignment, and didn't make good use of study hall to finish it. |
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| Author: | Elessar [ Wed Mar 23, 2011 11:19 am ] |
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How the seashells work. |
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