The Glade 4.0

...But I thought I'd throw out an update anyway.

Christmas has come and passed marking the 1 year of my brother attacking me that morning. This event, Oonagh and I mark as the beginning of what has panned out since then.

I had ZERO communication with them for the great majority of the past year. I ignored each and every phone call from them and got out all of my feelings and frustrations to our Doctor who has helped me greatly. Her phone calls would consist of the same phrases:

"How long will this go on" "Your father can't handle this" "He's been in three car accidents (my fault, of course)" "We want to stop over and see the kids, or you can just drop them off or we can pick them up"

My birthday, Jan 15th, they show up at my door as we are on our way out shopping. I had little to say, but finally managed to try and tell them that I am indeed a happier person without them in my life, to which her response to me was "No, that can't be"

What I have realized this boils down to is one simple fact. I have never been able to feel as I do without them deciding against it. I have been told by them how to feel and my feeling of hate, sorrow, betrayal, have always been ignored.

Honestly, there is TONS more that I'd love to go on about here but trying to get it all out on the typed page is just too much for me. I have the benefit of a good wife who is now, and always has been there through the worst of this and we are able to share this with each other so we don't go mad with all of our thoughts on this. My Doctor has been invaluable as well as both a venting source and someone who has been able to validate how I have felt about them all my life.

They are now dead to me. I have no parents any longer and this changes my life in almost no way at all. They have been nothing to me for years and now it is all but official in Oonagh and my minds. The phone calls have trailed off significantly and unless the very hand of God touches her, there will be no reconciliation with my "mother" in my lifetime.

This is the end for now.

Thanks again for all of the support here through the years.

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This must be Thursday. I could never get the hang of Thursdays.

While wishing for that miracle for your folks, it almost certainly will not happen in this life

I am happy you have moved forward, that you and Laura keep growing stronger together, and that your doctor has truly helped you get last the problems.

Hugs to all of you. If the future allows I would love to come visit you again someday.

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The U. S. Constitution doesn't guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself. B. Franklin

"A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone." -- Tyrion Lannister, A Game of Thrones

You guys should post more.

Keep hanging in there Foamy! It's too bad your mother and father can't come to grips with their shortcomings, but you and Oonagh and your children are better off without them in your life. I am so glad my parents weren't like yours.

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"Said I never had much use for one, never said I didn't know how to use one!"~ Matthew Quigley

"nothing like a little meow in bed at night" ~ Bruskey

"I gotta float my stick same as you" Hondo Lane

"Fill your hand you son of a *****!"

I would have moved away. Even if I just moved across town so they couldn't find me.

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Raell Kromwell

Leaving an abusive relationship with a parent is a difficult thing, because we're indoctrinated from birth to think our parents want what's best for us. Sometimes parents are genuinely malicious, and sometimes parents are simply mentally deranged. It is uncommon, but it does happen. I'm glad you've changed your life for the better, and are finding yourself happier. I know it hasn't been easy.

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Buckle your pants or they might fall down.

Late is better than never man.

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"...but there exists also in the human heart a depraved taste for equality, which impels the weak to attempt to lower the powerful to their own level and reduces men to prefer equality in slavery to inequality with freedom." - De Tocqueville

Well done and congratulations.

This is difficult to do and I am quite impressed with you.

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Memento Vivere

I have local knowledge.
That sandbar was not there yesterday!

I'm glad that you've been able to find some peace in an overall crappy situation. Best of luck to you and your family.

I would argue that any parent who is genuinely malicious toward their children is already mentally deranged.

Seriously -- I don't have a choice how I feel about my children. It's a biological hardwired imperative to want what is best for your kids. Now, some parents will drive their children batty based on conflicting ideas of "what is best,", but any parent who is genuinely malicious, who does not automatically prioritize the wellbeing of their children, isn't wired the same way as the rest of our species. Hence, "Mentally derranged."

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Well Ali Baba had them forty thieves, Scheherezade had a thousand tales
But master you in luck 'cause up your sleeves you got a brand of magic never fails...
...Mister Aladdin, sir, What will your pleasure be?
Let me take your order, Jot it down -You ain't never had a friend like me
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I'm sorry you have had, and continue to have, to deal with this at all, but am glad that you have been able to get yourself to a healthy place.

This! We miss you!

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"Hysterical children shrieking about right-wing anything need to go sit in the corner and be quiet while the adults are talking."

Glad to hear it, Foamy. Best.