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| Author: | Jasmy [ Mon Oct 12, 2015 1:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | WTF?? |
Today I adopted a puppy as a companion to our older dog. As I was walking to the kennel with one of the employees I jokingly asked him if he thought my husband would divorce me when I brought the puppy home. We both laughed. Well guess what? After 33 years together he wants to divorce me over a dog because I didn't consult with him first!! He retired four years ago. The last three years all he has done is sit around drinking and sleeping. He can't walk, he doesn't do anything around the house, and he tells me to do what I want when it comes to major decisions because I have to take care of everything anyway...except for today! I could have divorced him over twenty years ago because there were no marital relations on his part in all those years...but I stayed with him through the good and the bad...and he wants to divorce me over a puppy?? WTF??? |
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| Author: | Serienya [ Mon Oct 12, 2015 4:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
*hugs* That seems a bit of an overreaction. Hang in there. |
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| Author: | Aethien [ Mon Oct 12, 2015 11:38 am ] |
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Ugh, I'm terribly sorry to hear that, Jasmy. That's a pretty horrible reaction. Best of luck. |
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| Author: | Lonedar [ Mon Oct 12, 2015 12:33 pm ] |
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Damn! That's frickin' awful. I hope that however this works itself out, it is to the best for you. |
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| Author: | shuyung [ Mon Oct 12, 2015 1:27 pm ] |
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It sounds like there's something else going on in there. You might want to consider that this is a man who wants to lay down and die, but doesn't want you to watch him do it. This simply provides a convenient excuse for him to get you away. |
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| Author: | Lenas [ Mon Oct 12, 2015 1:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
In all of your years posting I've never seen you mention one redeeming quality of your husband's. This sucks, but mostly just because of your time investment. |
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| Author: | FarSky [ Mon Oct 12, 2015 3:02 pm ] |
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/\ Ah, yeah, that. |
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| Author: | Raell [ Tue Oct 13, 2015 1:10 am ] |
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Uggggggggggg. I am sorry. Go stay with a friend, give him some time. He will either see how stupid he is or you will be free of the burden of caring for him. |
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| Author: | Jasmy [ Tue Oct 13, 2015 3:43 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
I forgot about the phone call he made to our son that night, when he told our son I was contemplating suicide. Allen called me in a panic. I had to reassure him that I wouldn't do something stupid like that. I have too much to live for and too much life left to live. I'm just numb right now. I never in my life imagined that this would ever happen. He is already looking into assisted living places. This is really happening. I'm going to need time to figure out what to do now. Lenas his redeeming qualities are in all the years we've been together he has never lifted a finger to me or our sons and he worked 30+ years to provide for his family and to provide for our retirement. |
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| Author: | darksiege [ Tue Oct 13, 2015 2:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
Jasmy wrote: he has never lifted a finger to me or our sons and he worked 30+ years to provide for his family and to provide for our retirement. That should be a basic quality of any man and not a redeeming quality. Sorry to read about this Jasmy. |
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| Author: | Jasmy [ Tue Oct 13, 2015 3:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
True DS, but considering his alcoholism and the fact he has punched walls and broke his hand on the refrigerator once, I am happy to say he never hit me or our sons in a fit of rage. Raell Once everything is said and done, my truck is in excellent shape for a beat-up '91 F-150, I have my dogs and camping gear. I might just do what he and I had planned to do together for our retirement...travel around the country. |
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| Author: | Diamondeye [ Tue Oct 13, 2015 8:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
darksiege wrote: Jasmy wrote: he has never lifted a finger to me or our sons and he worked 30+ years to provide for his family and to provide for our retirement. That should be a basic quality of any man and not a redeeming quality. Sorry to read about this Jasmy. Well, she said it was a redeeming quality. |
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| Author: | Raell [ Tue Oct 13, 2015 9:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
Jasmy wrote: True DS, but considering his alcoholism and the fact he has punched walls and broke his hand on the refrigerator once, I am happy to say he never hit me or our sons in a fit of rage. Raell Once everything is said and done, my truck is in excellent shape for a beat-up '91 F-150, I have my dogs and camping gear. I might just do what he and I had planned to do together for our retirement...travel around the country. Good for you. Keep the oil changed that truck will run forever. And you live in California so he can't leave you high and dry. Worst comes to worst...I have a shovel. |
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| Author: | Jasmy [ Fri Oct 16, 2015 6:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
So he called a lawyer who told him he is better off reconciling. We talked and the divorce is on hold...for now. Keep that shovel handy Raell, I may want to borrow it down the road.  I want to thank you all for bearing with me. I appreciate the sounding board. 
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| Author: | Diamondeye [ Sat Oct 17, 2015 7:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
Is the puppy ok? |
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| Author: | Jasmy [ Sun Oct 18, 2015 6:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
Puppy is fine. She has a cough, but the vet gave her some antibiotics, and she is sounding better already.
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| Author: | Jasmy [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 8:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
Update: I told him to get out tonight. He has done nothing to even try to reconcile. He is the same ******* he has been since he retired. I can't handle his negativity any more. I don't know how I will tell my dad about this. He loves my hubby and always thought highly of him. 
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| Author: | Raell [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 9:59 pm ] |
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Then they should live together! |
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| Author: | Jasmy [ Thu Nov 26, 2015 11:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: WTF?? |
We couldn't even have one day together without him being his old obnoxious self. I hope my son can forgive me this Thanksgiving...I tried. |
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