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My last surviving grandparent just died. My grandmother in Washington on my dad's side.
My sister called two weeks ago to tell me she fell and was in the hospital. At the time, my sister was driving and said she'd call me back. She didn't. I tried calling her and my older sister several times and leaving voicemails...no return calls but got text message photos of her trying on her wedding dress. (My older sister called back while I was washing the dog and when I tried calling her back she didn't answer. Left another voicemail.....no return call.)
Then I find out today Grandma died by reading my sister's facebook status.
I sent her a message about that and she told me off..."you didn't try very hard. I've been busy. When you want to have a conversation without trying to make me feel shitty or pick a fight let me know. For now, leave me alone. I'm grieving."

I haven't seen my grandma since my dad died....in the last 15 years I've been up in Oregon 3 times. Once for my mom's surprise 50th birthday (dad flew me in), then for my dad's funeral (mom flew me in), and then to be with my mom while she died (my friends raised the money to fly me there).
In the past 15 years, my mom came down here 3 times....once when I graduated high school, once when my aunt got married and wanted to show her husband the family, and when I graduated college.
My sister keeps saying she is going to come visit and every six months she says she is buying a plane ticket but she never does.

It kills me that I have not been able to maintain these relationships. I thought one day I'd be able to afford to go up there or visit, but its like that damn cats in the cradle song...its always something. And now I'm 30 and no surviving parents or grandparents....I thought I had 10 more years to get my **** together.

The simple fact is that I'm not there. I have not been there. No one wants to put the effort in to maintain relationships, but I'm the only one who seems to be hurt by this.

&%#@*.
I'm so angry.

I don't even feel like I have a right to be sad, but I am. Very sad. RIP Grandma.

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"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Jesus of Nazareth

Awfully sorry to hear that, LK. Sounds like someone is treating you like **** due to their own issues.

Sorry you had trouble keeping in touch with your relatives, or getting up there before she died. Just reinforces the notion that you really have to be grateful for what you have, and take the opportunities to express that to your loved ones when you can.

My sympathies.

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This cold and dark tormented hell
Is all I`ll ever know
So when you get to heaven
May the devil be the judge

Peace, LK

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My condolences LK.

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"Said I never had much use for one, never said I didn't know how to use one!"~ Matthew Quigley

"nothing like a little meow in bed at night" ~ Bruskey

"I gotta float my stick same as you" Hondo Lane

"Fill your hand you son of a *****!"

Bum deal.

Sorry for your loss.

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Women* suck

Sorry LK.

*this is not a disparaging comment directed at all women, merely the ones portrayed in the story.

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*hugs*

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That sandbar was not there yesterday!

My condolences, LK.

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---The Daily Show

I'm sorry for your loss, LK. It's hard being the only person in a family who wants to maintain relationships (at least that what my aunt tells me).

I'm sorry for your loss, Kate. Family can be a pain in the *** sometimes, prolly because they know if anyone will take **** from them, it's a family member.

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Dream as if you'll live forever...
...Live as if you'll die tomorrow

Vivere Senza Rimpianti

I'm sorry LadyKate =(

Sorry to hear this

Like the others, I'm sorry to hear that Katie. Maybe you can use this as a springboard to make sure you stay in touch with your surviving relatives.

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"A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone." -- Tyrion Lannister, A Game of Thrones

*hugs* sorry to hear LK

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Darksiege
Traveller, Calé, Whisperer
Lead me not into temptation; for I know a shortcut

Condolences, Kate, that sucks all around.

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Women are from Hoboken, men are from Trenton. ~ Jimmy Kimmel

Sorry to hear. My condolences.

My condolences, LK.

Thanks ya'll. *hugs*

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"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Jesus of Nazareth

Sorry to hear that LadyKate. Hope you will be feeling better soon.

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