From your post, it doesn't seem to me that much if anything (other than your posting name) has changed. For what it's worth, good luck on the "new" you.

From your post, it doesn't seem to me that much if anything (other than your posting name) has changed. For what it's worth, good luck on the "new" you.

This isn't a blog spot. Go get a MySpace account.

Yes, because drama is the only way to emotionally develop!

Empathy and caring about others is also a good way to emotionally develop, but since you have thrown that out the window, I would say that emotional development is not your primary concern.

Quite honestly, after the statement "I am God", I can't take much about you wanting to grow and develop seriously.

I just want to throw this out there, in case your omniscience hadn't noticed: getting girls by doing whatever feels right to you may work, but keeping them requires you to think about and value what feels right to them.

It's not really about the girls. It's about me.

This is what I'm talking about, though. So long as it's about you, i doubt you'll find a girl that's a fantastic fit.

Just because you don't immediately feel empathy does not mean it's artificial. It means you may have to take some time, and consider things before you can see what about the person or their position you empathize with.

I don't think you have a clue what empathy is, judging by the way you talk.

Empathy is understanding where someone else is coming from. It does not have to effect your intentions, but it should make you consider what it would be like to be in someone else's shoes.

It allows you to play out situations that you are not directly involved, to analyze who others react to them, to how you would have reacted to them.

No matter how free and loose you are, you will not experience nearly as many situations that you can analyze behavior in as if you were to empathize with those around you, therefore you will not experience as much or as fast of emotional growth.

I would personally say there is nothing wrong, per se, with your attitude towards girls- if you are being honest, you probably aren't hurting them by misleading them, so what they do with you is completely their choice.

I would say, from reading what you post, that you are someone with extremely low self confidence trying to mask it by acting like you have loads of it.

In the end, you are just shielding yourself from actual growth by making excuses for why you act the way you do.

You constantly state that you are 'special' or 'different', which you may think of as being a way to accept yourself for who you are.

In the end, it's just a way to not have to accept yourself.

You give yourself a free pass to ignore societal rules and mores without having the confidence to say which ones you are bypassing and why.

You go from emotional highs to emotional lows, and then rationalize your way out of the emotional lows back to emotional highs by telling yourself that other people don't understand you and you are different.

You revel in 'cheap' thrills, you say you talk to girls- but do you talk about things that have any real significance, or do you talk about the superficial?

Do you try to find people who are your emotional and intellectual equals (or betters) so that they might challenge you by forcing your growth? Or are you happy to hang out with those that you dwarf in intellect and stability.

At least that's my 2 cp.

Lex, you need Jesus.

Serious question...

Why, to you, is it so much about "getting girls"?

Don't you want more than to just get a girl in the manner in which you speak.

My wife is the only girl I ever "got". I didn't need to pursue others to enjoy cheap thrills. I met one who turned out to be the most wonderful and influential person in my life who I am now married to for 7 years and starting my family with.

All this happiness and I never felt the need to "get girls" as you so eloquently put it.