Aizle wrote:
I'm not sure what exposure you've had to the gay community at large, but I live in what is now the "most gay" city in the US, as Minneapolis just recently surpassed San Fran on that front. Additionally, having both an extensive theatre back ground as well as a number of gay friends, so I've got a pretty good pulse on the gay community. (yes, some stereotypes are true, there are a LOT of gay people in theatre)
Sure, there are some gays who hate bisexuals. But that is not the majority or the norm. There is some frustration sometimes at the fracturing of the "gay" community into GLBT, but if you look at pretty much every single large scale gay activist group or publication, they all reference GLBT these days. So I stand by my comment that hate is the wrong word, it doesn't accurately describe the feelings of the gay community today.
What you're describing really is a form of hate. Not passionate "I want all bisexuals to die" hate, but resentment of them for being different. If "hate" is too strong a word for that, then it's too strong a word for about 90% of the other bigotry it's used to refer to, and in any case there is a nontrivial minority of gays that actually do hate gays.
Regardless, resenting the split of the "gay community" into GLBT and whatever else falls under that umbrella is what's so totally unreasonable, mainly because it isn't a fracturing. Bisexuals, transsexuals and anyone else who isn't gay aren't part of the gay community because they aren't gay. The problem is, as I stated, that gays tried to pull them in to boost numbers, but still wanted everything to be all about gay issues, when bisexuals have different (although sometimes overlapping) issues. When GLBT organizations talk, they invariably start off talking about GLBT as a pro forma thing but it rapidly becomes gay this, gay that, gay the other thing.
Not only that, but there is significant resentment, even if it isn't burning, seething hatred, of bisexuals for their ability to "pretend to be straight" and not being "fully on the team" or whatever, especially if that bisexual has the gall to be with a person of the opposite sex or worse, bring that opposite sex person to a GLBT event, even if the other person is also bisexual.
The treatment of bisexuals is a form of tokenism at best, and bisexuals, if they were smart, would just stop being involved in anything GLBT, and so would transsexuals.
By the way, I have plenty of "exposure" to the "gay community". Living in a "gay city" does not give you some special awareness everyone else is deprived of.