Reading the blog post and then looking at her sums it up. She's that girl from high school that always had a boyfriend, but never had the quarterback, or the prom king, or whatever, because she was decent-looking, but not "hot".
Of course, that describes a lot, probably about 50% of the girls in school, but there was always that one that didn't get that most people, of either sex, fall into that category. There's only one starting quarterback and there's only one varsity cheerleading captain (well, maybe a few depending on how the coach organizes it, but unless its a really tiny school they aren't going to be more than a miniscule portion of the students) and while there's no rule that says the cheer captain and QB have to date each other, the fact is that they're going to be high on the physical and social attractiveness scale and only one person can date either of them.
In high school there was always that one guy or girl that just couldn't stand it if they weren't the one going out with the hottest member of the opposite sex, because it just never occured to them that A) the hotties might actually want something out of their date besides also being a hottie and B) that even if they weren't on the hotties' level of physical and social attractiveness, they might have had a chance anyhow if they weren't such a shallow *** in the first place.
With boys, this is the one that dates around the school, lays the girls, and then breaks up with them thinking he can just climb the high school scale of physical attactiveness like a ladder. With girls, this is the one that dates different guys, and then breaks up with them as spectacularly as possible complaining about what a "creep" or "perv" they are, hoping the hottie they desire will eventually notice their discriminating taste.
When this sort of creature grows up and doesn't mature, you get someone like this woman. She's still thinking like it's high school and while no one wants to date the kid who's both covered in acne and can't talk about anything besides how he statted out Drizzt Do'Urden, you also don't want to date the semi-overweight skater kid that has a great sense of humor and everyone likes because he's great on social attractiveness but weak on physical, and you don't want to date the girl who's captain of the girl's basketball team and taking AP chemistry either because she's good looking but she's a "nerd" and everyone secretly suspects she's a dyke but won't say so because she's 5'11" and also takes Tae Kwon Do and might kick your ***.
She doesn't get that shallowness is part of high school. High schoolers are adolescents with raging hormones and it's just really hard for them to see past the physical and their ideas of what adults want beyond the physical are just starting to form. You just have to deal with shallow in high school and accept that most likely you won't end up with these people anyhow. But when high school is over, it's time to start cutting back on the drama, and on the meaningless standards of social attractiveness like "Does Not Play Magic".
Otherwise you end up as a freelance reporter whoring yourself out for a paycheck and having people on the internet talk about how your mugshot isn't really as hot as you think it is because, contrary to what you learned in high school, it takes more than blonde hair to find a decent date.
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