Stathol wrote:
Rynar:
There's a lot of difference between telling a friend an unwelcome truth and just kicking someone when they're down.
I don't see how anything Michael said was even the slightest bit constructive. Constructive things are not necessarily pleasant or agreeable; That's understood. But there was no "I think you should do x..." or even "I think you should stop doing y...". It was just, "here's some painful and embarrassing things about your life right now. In conclusion, you are less of man. P.S. You must have psychological issues. I can tell from the ponies, and from having quite a few armchair psychiatry sessions in the past".
I'm debating whether I should really say anything more. Quite honestly, you hit a major nerve with me, and perhaps it would be better if I just kept my mouth shut.
I'm just going to point out that I've been through a lot of really painful, embarrassing, and just plain dark stuff in my life, and I've been fortunate that things are finally starting to look better. I've learned a lot of things, but perhaps one of the most important is that you can take the facts of a person's life and string them together into many different narratives. It's really easy to convince yourself that a given narrative is true because it's based on truthful facts. I've spent a lot of sweat, blood, and tears being dragged down by just exactly that kind of "loser narrative". So, yeah ... it kind of pisses me off. But much more importantly than that, I speak from personal experience when I say, "this is not helping".
See, I get what you're saying, but I totally didn't take it that way. I genuinely like the Moose, but I'm fairly concerned for him. Whenever someone I respect has something like that to say to me, I've always tried to reevaluate, and its served me well. Maybe its a difference in personality. I've never know Michael to be mean, so I took it as a constructive offering.
That said, Arafys, you'll pull out of this, and I'm pulling for you. I'm sorry that my part in the offerings weren't taken as intended.
As much as this pains me...
/brohoof
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19 Yet she became more and more promiscuous as she recalled the days of her youth, when she was a prostitute in Egypt. 20 There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses.
Ezekiel 23:19-20