Rynar wrote:
When I was a kid I was was punished equally for bullying and for not standing up for myself and my younger siblings to older children who were bullying us..
It served me and my family very well.
Depending on the situation, this type of parenting style is going to result in a lot of suicides.
The high school I attended in freshman and sophomore year had a severe bullying problem. This was exacerbated by the fact that the management of that school was utterly and grossly incompetent and responded to systemic problems by basically sticking their fingers in their ears and pretending the problems didn't exist. "Standing up" to a bully there that was twice your weight meant you risked serious injury, and it happened to a few kids. One freshman known to have severe claustrophobia was stuffed in a locker for an entire day, and ended up in the hospital because he tore all his fingernails off trying to claw his way out. Another got carted out with a fractured skull, he finally got the courage to tell some big guy to **** off and got his head slammed into a wall for it.
If you put your kids in a situation where they have to choose between getting beat at home and getting beat at school, what do you think is going to happen?