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1. I've never had sex with someone who wasn't also as ready as I. If the other person wasn't wanting it, it was usually obvious as they wouldn't take off their clothes.
We're not talking about someone who doesn't want to have sex. We're talking about people who want sex, but are bored or uninterested in what they're getting, and generally won't tell you why. Usually if you haven't been in a relationship very long, it's because they want you to do something, but think it's "unromantic" or something if they actually ask for it. They tend to expect mind reading in other areas as well.
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2. I've never considered it "bad sex" if someone wouldn't perform all my favorite kinks.
We're not talking about "favorite kinks". We're talking about people who have hangups about common practices, such as "I don't give oral sex" or "I don't want to either give or receive oral sex" or, as Michael pointed out "I want you to perform oral sex but I don't want to give it", a common failing of people of both genders. Another example would be people who think anything other then missionary is "kinky" and "weird". Stuff that is pretty basic fare, and shouldn't be off-putting to a normal adult even if they don't necessarily want to do that on the first time.
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I'm sure "bad sex" exists. I guess I've been lucky to never have experienced what is considered it.
Then you're very lucky, especially if you ever had sex between the ages of 18 and 25. A lot of people between that age are surprisingly willing to get in bed with someone, but have a lot of hangups once there that are basically residual teenage self-conciousness.