The Glade 4.0

My brother's wife sent me an e-mail this morning.

A month ago she underwent surgery for uterine cancer. She told no one outside of of my brother and nephew. They in turn told no one.

The cancer spread to her lymph nodes so she is going to receive chemotherapy and radiation therapy.

*beats head against wall*

My other brother, his wife, and I are all physicians. There is NO excuse for this to have become metastatic. Any woman who starts to have vaginal bleeding (a "period") after menopause need immediate evaluation. My SiL know this because I told her about Pat in my office who developed those symptoms. When Pat asked me about that I told her she was going to call her Gyn and leave to her office that afternoon. When Pat told me she got an appointment for 6 weeks later, I got on the phone, told the Gyn's front office person that Pat had untreated uterine cancer and need to be seen immediately. Pat was seen that day, and had surgery 2 days after that.

So she does not ask questions; does not get treatment, and does not even get emotional support.

*returns to beating head against wall*

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Memento Vivere

I have local knowledge.
That sandbar was not there yesterday!

Sorry to hear this SG. Some people ignore things hoping it will go away or get better on its own and don't want to face reality or are too afraid to face it. While it can be frustrating reminding them that you are there for them and supporting them (and not lecturing them on what could have been) is what they really need now.

I hope it works out OK for her.

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I met this six-year-old child, with this blank, pale, emotionless face and, the blackest eyes... the devil's eyes. I spent eight years trying to reach him, and then another seven trying to keep him locked up because I realized what was living behind that boy's eyes was purely and simply... evil

Unfortunately, I'd probably do the same. Whatever it is about doctors and such, if I'm not in pain, and if the pain isn't getting worse, I tend to put off my visits and just try to live with it.

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In time, this too shall pass.

Sorry to hear it SG, I'm sure the frustration that it was left untreated despite all logic to the contrary can't make it any easier to deal with for all involved.

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"Dress cops up as soldiers, give them military equipment, train them in military tactics, tell them they’re fighting a ‘war,’ and the consequences are predictable." —Radley Balko

I'm so sorry, Squirrel Girl, and will add her and her family to my prayers. It is very sad and unfortunate in this case, but the adage the plumber's house never being plumbed is so often true...

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Ezekiel 23:19-20 

I'm so sorry Squirrel Girl...my thoughts are with all of you.

/hugs

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"Said I never had much use for one, never said I didn't know how to use one!"~ Matthew Quigley

"nothing like a little meow in bed at night" ~ Bruskey

"I gotta float my stick same as you" Hondo Lane

"Fill your hand you son of a *****!"

Denial runs rampant among homo sapiens.

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The U. S. Constitution doesn't guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself. B. Franklin

"A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone." -- Tyrion Lannister, A Game of Thrones

+1

My favoritest aunt in the world ignored stomach pain and sickness until it was too late. I was working when she came in for an ultrasound, and they found spots in her liver. She didn't live 2 months past that....... It's extremely hard when someone in the know understands the severity, while the loved one doesn't until it's too late.

Best wishes SG.

I e-mailed her back and was very supportive. Did not breathe a word of my frustration. She doesn't need it and what good would it do anyway. Just brought my frustration here to vent.

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Memento Vivere

I have local knowledge.
That sandbar was not there yesterday!

So sorry to hear that SG.

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"Hysterical children shrieking about right-wing anything need to go sit in the corner and be quiet while the adults are talking."

That's so sad. To add a layer of frustration for me is the fact that she obviously has health coverage of some sort, yet she resists using it.