The Glade 4.0

The older I get the more I realize that I am not truly free to speak my mind. There are some things that go through my head that would have consequences I am unwilling to face. This makes me a sad panda

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Darksiege
Traveller, Calé, Whisperer
Lead me not into temptation; for I know a shortcut

Yep - it's part of the package for "having a career" or "having a marriage/relationship." Welcome to the jungle.

Try to keep in mind how many other peoples' opinions it keeps in check as well. When you think of the amount of bullshit you don't have to listen to, it will seem much better.

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"Hysterical children shrieking about right-wing anything need to go sit in the corner and be quiet while the adults are talking."

To me though; it feels like lying. And I despise lying. The fact that ot is a requirement does not make it any better

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Darksiege
Traveller, Calé, Whisperer
Lead me not into temptation; for I know a shortcut

There are so many things I choose not to say every day it is funny.

I'm still free to say it, but I choose not to make matters worse just to say my piece. If it doesn't improve matters, its usually best left unsaid.

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The U. S. Constitution doesn't guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself. B. Franklin

"A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone." -- Tyrion Lannister, A Game of Thrones

Me too >.<

So instead I pretend to say it in my head and I feel better. I've also discovered that people don't appreciate been told the truth, even if it's to their advantage sometimes. They just don't like the hard work that goes with the truth I guess.

So if there were no consequences, what kinds of things would you be saying?

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"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Jesus of Nazareth

There are many things, some of which I am not completely comfortable going into detail on... Butit is mainly telling some people what I really think of them.

For example - I really want to tell Lisa's friend that I feel like I am a crappy parent, but it dwarfs how bad of a parent I think she is.

This is a much more mild one of the bunch, but it still is something I would have to deal with consequences of if I said anything.

I have specifically been told that I am NOT allowed to tell her that she must give great head because her voice is so irritating that head is the only way her man could have stayed with her for 3 years.

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Darksiege
Traveller, Calé, Whisperer
Lead me not into temptation; for I know a shortcut

That's actually a very good point, DE.

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This cold and dark tormented hell
Is all I`ll ever know
So when you get to heaven
May the devil be the judge

That sounds pretty normal. Generally I have found that telling my husband these private thoughts or my best friend is almost as good as saying them out loud to the intended target.

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"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Jesus of Nazareth

Like what? I will usually say anything. Sometimes you have to use the artfully approach to telling someone to **** off though. I can't tell my boss he's a douche, but I can imply it given the opportunity. I think you're being silly. You're completely free to say whatever you like, but you had best be prepared for the consequnces. Sometimes there is great wisdom to be had from not opening your gob. "Better to remain silent and be thought the fool, than to speak and remove all doubt."

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"...the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?" -Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

Saying everything on your mind isn't very interesting.

Nearly everything I say has a point, if it's going to cause drama. Otherwise, it's not worth the drama. If I were a slave to my own thoughts, I wouldn't be free either. I can say whatever I want, if I'm willing to accept the consequences. Freedom is not about being free from the consequences of your choices, it's about having the choices.

I'm free to run out into traffic, if you catch my drift.

Looks at the forums here, especially in hellfire before moderation was put into practice.

That's what happens when you speak your mind without any filter.

The problem there is; the way hellfire was before moderation was not as bad as I want to explode at people sometimes.

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Darksiege
Traveller, Calé, Whisperer
Lead me not into temptation; for I know a shortcut

Let me ask you a question. Do you think that the atmosphere in hellfire was one you'd like to spend a lot of time in?

I suspect for many the answer is no. And that would be why having filters and controls on things is a good thing. Because without that, then when you go off on someone, you need to prepared to get punched in the mouth whether figuratively or literally.

See, and that's where I disagree with you.

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“The duty of a patriot is to protect his country from its government.” - Thomas Paine

Disagree how? I'm not saying that someone should punch people for saying anything, but surely you understand that if you go too far with verbal comments, you may very well have a fight on your hands. Hell, if I recall correctly, Khross took a chair to someone for verbal comments that were made toward him/around him.

Your position appeared to me to say that violence in response to words was justified.

It was to that apparent stance I posted disagreement.

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“The duty of a patriot is to protect his country from its government.” - Thomas Paine

Ah. Not what I'm suggesting, just noting that reality does have people who will react that way.

Sometimes violence is the solution. Curious thing about humanity: it likes to forget that its composed of animals.

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I don't disagree, sometimes violence is the solution.



I prefer to view it as humanity is trying to rise above it's origins and strives to be more/better than animals.

I usually speak my mind. This leads me to not thinking inappropriate things, because there would be a high chance of speaking them and getting myself in trouble.

Speaking your mind conditions your brain into having just one personality.

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"The map is not the territory."

somehow I think the original message to what I said is now lost. I know I am very free to say these things, and I should also expect to get my *** kicked if I say some of these things, or to lose friends, etc. if I actually say some of these things. This in effect curbs my voice, and tells me what I cannot say. Or else I will need to endure the consequences.

I dislike that, that is all I was saying. And that sometimes I think my mental woes would disappear if I could just cut loose every now and then. But the consequences for cutting loose are things I am not willing to endure, so I stay silent.

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Darksiege
Traveller, Calé, Whisperer
Lead me not into temptation; for I know a shortcut

This is a really tough problem. I am often scared of what would happen if I stopped speaking my mind... if I would have a split personality where one is in my head and one spoken. This is why I try to be as open as possible when I communicate. Often there are stray thoughts in my head that I can't speak, but usually not enough to give me anxiety.

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"The map is not the territory."

Violence isn't the answer. Violence is the question. "Yes" is the answer.

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"...the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?" -Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn