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See, that's messed up. It's MY personal information. It is not rude to ask why someone wants it. Yes, he's obviously conducting official business. What business? Why am I involved? (If it's obvious, like I just witnessed an accident, then it's not an issue). It's clearly NOT obvious to me or I wouldn't be asking.
Except that it's not always, or even usually, clearly not obvious to you. The officer clearly thinks you have more information than he does, or he wouldn't be wanting to talk to you in the first place. Are you really telling me that you have had police officers come up to you and ask you for your name for no apparent reason, and without any preface at all that clues you in as to why? I've definitely had plenty of people ask me "why do you need to know my name/address/phone number/what I saw?" when an incident just happened right in front of them, and I already asked "did you see anything?" and they said "yes."
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And if you're out conducting official business, it's retarded to get all offended and bent out of shape if someone questions you. THAT's my point. He may need my name - I don't know - answer the question. Then, I'll have the information I need to determine if I want to cooperate or not, which is my right.
Are you really telling me that you have that frequently had police officers come up to you and ask you for your name for no apparent reason? Sure, if I walk up to someone minding their own business where nothing untoward is happening and ask them "what's your name" with no introduction or preface at all, I expect them to ask why. That's not the case the vast majority of the time, however.
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Are you nuts? Business purposes is not an answer. WHY do you need this for business purposes. "Oh, so we can spam the **** out of you". I actually got that answer once at Radio Shack "What's your phone number" "why do you need my phone number?" "I need it because it's here on my form". That's a stupid answer that doesn't tell me why they need it at all.
It's not an answer to you. You are, however, dealing with a private business. They don't have an official duty to spam you, advertise to you, or anything else. Police have a duty to the public, government, and courts, to investigate crimes, accidents, and other incidents. No, I'm not nuts. "Because it's on my form" is a pretty good answer to someone who is really that concerned with why Radio Shack wants their phone number. Either give it or don't give it. I certainly would not be inclined to entertain your evaluation of what is and isn't a valid business purpose of my employer if I'm a clerk.
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Maybe. And maybe that's official business I don't want to be part of. For the record, in EVERY instance, after they get all butt-hurt over being questioned, the bottom line is no, they don't actually need my info.
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you don't feel they need your information. That's not the same as "they don't need it". Furthermore, I thought you didn't want to get into specifics. I'm not speaking specifically about your interactions. I don't take your word for it that they were "getting all butt-hurt". It's an incident no one but you was present for and which you had a personal emotional investment in.
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Sure there is. I asked him. Guess what? You want it, pony up a reason. If he doesn't want to take the time to have a conversation, fine, but it's NOT "rude" for me to ask why he wants my personal information. It IS rude to take the viewpoint that "he doesn't need to explain himself to individuals that think "they" are owed an explanation."
Uh, no, it's not. Again, police generally do not just walk up out of the blue and ask for your name for no reason with no preface whatsoever. You just got done saying above that you have no problem if there's an accident right in front of you. all right, so now it's not "right in front of you" but there's a commotion down the street. You run over to see what's going on, and then the police show up. Why are you going to ask what they need your name for? Because it didn't happen right in front of you? I'm really not buying that you've had this plethora of incidents where some cop pulled up and just asked for your personal information and you had not the slightest inkling as to why and he provided no reason
at all before asking.
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Not taking the time to explain yourself for no other reason than you don't want to take the time is **** rude.
You do realize that when the police go to the actual scene of an accident, crime, or incident, they have limited time to work on it? No, it's not rude to not entertain your questions, when you're at the scene of an incident and most likely saw more than the officer did.
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Time and circumstances permitting, certainly he should, but if he doesn't that doesn't entitle you to obstruct his business by not giving it just because you've decided that your personal standard is that people conducting business of whatever kind with you owe you an explanation for wanting your name.
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Wrong. I don't have to give him ****. I don't have to say a word. And any officer that will arrest someone for refusing to hand over personal information without explaining is a douchebag.
We're not talking about arresting anyone, unless you mean where you're already a suspect for something else. So no, I'm not wrong. You don't have to say anything. That doesn't change the fact that you're being an uncooperative ******* who just wants to ask "why" because he can. (I don't mean you personally, I mean every other uncooperative ******* out there that the cop has no way and no time to distinguish you from) It isn't about you. It's about whatever the incident was. Ok, you exercised your rights. Good for you. Oh, you were willing to answer the question if only he'd answered "why" to your satisfaction? Fantastic, it's great that you're so cooperative. Let me clue you in however - the cop doesn't know you, and doesn't know your level of satisfaction. A lot of people are never satisfied. Why should the cop entertain your "why" question? Most people are pretty willing to give a witness statement without asking "why do you need my name?" The ones that aren't, you spend a lot of time cajoling them by answering "why" over and over and often they just end up not giving one. If you don't want to give a statement, just leave.
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I don't want anything from him. If I give you my social security number, are you rude for not giving me yours?
Because clearly a name and a social security number are the same thing.
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And the response should not be getting irritated for being questioned. You want something from me, tell me why.
Maybe. It depends on the time available and the circumstances. It also depends on how you ask. You're not owed an explanation for how or why official business is being conducted right on the spot. Again, if you think the question was improper, make a complaint through whatever channel is appropriate (hearing, official complaint process, lawsuit).
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