The Glade 4.0

I learned it from you! I learned it from watching you!

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Holy shitsnacks!

I have a continual phrase that I use to talk about them. "they are broken" tha is all

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"None is more important, none more legitimate, than that of rendering the people safe as they are the
ultimate guardians of their own liberty."- Thomas Jefferson

"Yeah, I'm rehearsing my poker face. I don't handle stupid well. *sigh*" - Farsky

My "mom" was to be watching the baby on Tuesdays and Thursdays when Oonagh was back to school.

This past Tuesday, the mom-type lady lasted all of about 1 1/2 hours with my daughter. She was not able to settle the baby down and ended up calling me (I was home sick) as Cecilia was crying for about 45 minutes.

Despite our "cheat-sheet" about how to deal with our reflux-afflicted daughter, the mom-person could not handle it and I ended up taking Cecilia home for the day and spent a wonderful day with her, despite my illness.

Oonagh and I called "what's her name" later that evening to discuss if she wanted to try watching the baby again on Thursday. Because "mom" doesn't want to administer the proper medicine prescribed by the pediatrician (That is our responsibility), and because our daughter "Isn't well" (EXACT WORDS), she does not want to watch her grand-daughter. Maybe after mommy and daddy fix her and get her all grown out of her reflux problems, maybe Nana will take her grand-daughter.

I honestly think "mom-person" favors my son over my daughter. After all, she never had daughters, only sons. She fawns all over Sean and only seems to have a passing interest in Cecilia. Worse, both my Father-In-Law and myself have heard her refer to herself as "mommy" when interacting with Sean on several occasions.

Thankfully, Sean is now out of everyone's hands and Oonagh and I have bitten the proverbial bullet and are paying for daycare for him. He is getting the socialization he needs, learning a routine, and having boundaries set that he wasn't getting in the care of family.

The one that I am forced, by accident of nature, to call mom has really done it this time. I just don't have the space here, nor the time to tell all that there is to tell. Oonagh and I have much to deal with and many hard choices forced upon us because of this broken woman and the syncophant, no will of his own, shell-of-a man I have the displeasure of calling my father.

The two people who I am cursed with calling my parents are the two people I hate most in this life. The only good thing that I can attribute to them is teaching me, by opposite example, how to be a good parent. I hug my children and tell them I love them as much as I can. I will always be there for them, but never fight their fights for them as my mom did all my life. I will never take from them or lie to them as my mom did, and I will always love and support their mother. I will also never put them between Oonagh and I if there were ever a rift between us. I will also never push my son away from trying to have a relationship with me as my father did.

I can't wait until my daughter is old enough that I can tell her that Nana didn't want to watch you when you were a baby because "you weren't well"

F*ck you "mom"

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This must be Thursday. I could never get the hang of Thursdays.

Don't hate. Its not good for your well being.

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Holy shitsnacks!

As much sympathy as I have for you and Oonagh, I don't think this is a good plan.

Don't be vengeful...

I agree with Midgen.

Out of curiosity (and I know it's easier said than done)...why do you still let her watch Cecilia? Why do you still allow her to have any part in your lives whatsoever?

Honestly, I think it's better for all parties if Cecilia doesn't even know who "Nana" is.

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Buckle your pants or they might fall down.

Farsky:

Up until now, I balked at the idea of spending money for daycare when free babysitting was available. Additionally, this sated their need to see their grandkids and headed off any unexpected visits from them to my house to see said grandkids.

After what she has said and how she continues to act, I no longer value the free babysitting over the cost of daycare for my daughter. As a plus, we are not "ripping" the children from them, rather taking her wish of not wanting to watch an unwell baby and keeping her away from them.

Sean is in daycare, not directly to keep him away from my parents, but rather indirectly because of their lack of any rules, boundaries and discipline. Way back when, I took Sean from them out of anger, this time around there is more reason that I am able to explain to them why he is in daycare (Despite them not wanting him there...Not their decision, but they don't believe that)

To cut them off is something that I don't know how to do with zero baggage to go along with it. I know in my heart, that I tried to reach out to them, to let them know that I needed counseling to deal with what they had caused me. They never took any blame, nor ever searched themselves to wonder why their son avoids them so. In their eyes, I am the one with the problem and I must come around and stop being angry at them. Never once did either of them really give an ounce of thought as to what led me to feel towards them as I do.

My Mother-in-law is willing to watch the baby more days for us as to avoid sending a 4 month old to daycare. But we are going to discuss this further, likely this weekend. As it sits, she was to be watching her 3 days...now it will be 4, with the potential of 5 in a few months. I will most likely be offering them compensation for taking on the additional responsibility for us. The discussion will also center around her wish that I "try" to let my M.O.M. watch her because my MIL knows what is like losing a child, both to marrying and leaving family behind and also to the actual death of a child.

What my MIL doesn't fully understand is the depth of the feelings I have on this. Oonagh and I have spent TOO MUCH time stressing about this situation and this is our opportunity to make (what I see it as) a clean break with my parents. They have wrought this, I am not taking the kids away this time. She made her mind up and that is all I need to get away from them so we only have to deal with them on our own terms...if we so choose.

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This must be Thursday. I could never get the hang of Thursdays.

Mus:

I was going to say that 9 mana + land sac. is a pretty high cost just to bury a creature, but the Land - Desert incorrectly lists a mana cost.

4 colorless mana and the sacrifice of a land still is kinda pricey, though. She's frail, I'd wager a 0/1. A Prodigal Sorcerer should be enough to handle her.

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This must be Thursday. I could never get the hang of Thursdays.

TBH, I know like nothing about how the Magic system works

But the 4 mana sacrifice is worth it when you realize that the authorities can't trace it back to you

In any event, I feex Its nice having photoshop on my tablet, even if I haven't a clue how it works yet.

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Holy shitsnacks!

I have a rather disturbing and eeeewwwww suggestion... take a dump on their doorstep in the middle of the night. Pretend you did not do it, and then just ignore them.

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Darksiege
Traveller, Calé, Whisperer
Lead me not into temptation; for I know a shortcut

One of the incidents happened in Sacramento, out at Mather AFB if I remember correctly. At a lawn party, one guy goes around to the back of the house and starts tossing the darts over the house. He's hitting close to the target even. Others go back there and start trying it. Then a toddler wanders right under one. He was hit in the back of the head, the weighted tip penetrated the skull and messed up the brain. He didn't survive. Lots of bad press for lawn darts after that.

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The U. S. Constitution doesn't guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself. B. Franklin

"A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone." -- Tyrion Lannister, A Game of Thrones

Idiots will find a way to kill people with anything.

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"...but there exists also in the human heart a depraved taste for equality, which impels the weak to attempt to lower the powerful to their own level and reduces men to prefer equality in slavery to inequality with freedom." - De Tocqueville

Sounds like they pushed themselves out of your life, not the other way around.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

Yup, that is the overriding feeling I am getting from the situation this time around.

They made their choices and now have to live with them.

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This must be Thursday. I could never get the hang of Thursdays.

Well he did express that he felt angry at them, which is a negative emotion that pushes people away. It's unnecessary to experience as well.

You're inventing reasons to disagree. He is angry because their behavior. Their behavior (choice of actions) is pushing them away from him. That's like saying if I get a cut and it's causing me to bleed and experience pain, that the pain must be causing me to bleed. Pain is negative and an unnecessary thing to experience.

That's utterly absurd.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

I am now all but convinced that my mother favors her 3 year old grandson over her infant granddaughter.

Having not seen her grandkids in almost a month, my mom walked into my house last night , gushed over seeing Sean and barely said hello to me. Add this to the fact that she didn't even mention the baby (In my arms...me sitting on floor feeding her), look at her, ask about how she is doing, make a cutesy face at her....NOTHING.

She followed Sean out to the kitchen to sit with him having his dinner. Oonagh then came out to the living room and took the baby from me and forced her into my mother's arms.

I'm not going to ramble as I normally do, but there is something VERY, VERY wrong with my mother and neither my father nor brother seem to thing anything of it.

They are all but out of our lives at this point. Their babysitting services are no longer required and they'll only see their GKs when (if) we decide to bring them over, or if they stop at our house.

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This must be Thursday. I could never get the hang of Thursdays.