The Glade 4.0

So I have this weird kind of relationship/friendship with a woman I met a month ago; I met her in the town I'm planning to move. I keep saying I just want to be friends but when we hang out, it definitely feels like something different and then it all kind of went to a new level when she seduced me. I tried to resist but, hey, I'm a 27 year old dude, what am I supposed to do? I need to focus and I've actually been doing a good job; I've finished a lot of errands and tasks in preparation for my move and career change but little miss irresistible smile keeps popping up in my head. I've even been off the reefer staying 100% sober and I'm still distracted. I knew this would happen if we went there and I still let it happen.

Sometimes I envy eunuchs.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

Why are you resisting? If she is that much of a distraction she must have something going for her. Have your fling, dive in and enjoy the ride. If it turns into something better, wonderful. If it burns out quickly it can be a great memory. Just stay calm and don't pick fights to keep things from happening.

As you said, you're 27. That is a great time in your life to do this type of thing. I'm not going to pretend you're a devout follower of all conservative family values and think you need to save yourself for marriage. Be Careful, use protection, be the hedonist you want to be. Time for confession, soul baring, etc. down the road when you feel the need to feel guilty about something.

Enjoy.

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The U. S. Constitution doesn't guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself. B. Franklin

"A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone." -- Tyrion Lannister, A Game of Thrones

Men aren't made to run fast enough from a woman who is chasing them.

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This is the type of advice more people need to give.

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Well Ali Baba had them forty thieves, Scheherezade had a thousand tales
But master you in luck 'cause up your sleeves you got a brand of magic never fails...
...Mister Aladdin, sir, What will your pleasure be?
Let me take your order, Jot it down -You ain't never had a friend like me
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I'm having a hard time recognizing the problem here.

I'm with Lenas and Taly and Michael on this.

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Holy shitsnacks!

Yeah, add me to the "hard time seeing a problem" group.

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Darksiege: You are not a god damned vulcan homie.

Ok, I guess I should clarify. If I get involved with her the chances of spending all my time and energy are present and I don't want to fall into that. She also said the "L" word already and caught me off guard and I actually said it back ... half because I didn't want to be awkward and half because I do feel a connection with her. If I do anything with her, I don't want it to consume my life.

So knowing that, do I break it off/stop it where it is or just say **** it, all in? I asked her if we could just go slow and keep our separate lives somewhat and she agreed but the actions have been to the contrary.

And yes, first world problems for sure. I'm still eating, drinking clean water and sleeping in a warm and dry place every day. I really don't have that much to worry about. Plus the moving and job stuff is a good distraction along with rebooting the DJ project from college and skating, hiking, fishing this summer.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

She already said she loves you, break it off. It's worse that you said it back and don't mean it, but don't perpetuate the problem.

I'd hit it.

Me too.

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Holy shitsnacks!

Yep, see what I mean? I tried to use my friends line for that situation, "I love you too, bro", but I couldn't say it without laughing.

edit: I already know what's going to happen. The sex is too good, she's older (MILF) than me, hot, she's has a really cool personality, is a sweetie and we share a lot of interests and I'm not going to leave and this is going to end badly. I guess this was just a post trying to hope someone could convince me not to **** up again but hey, I'm sure I'll be here in 4 months saying, "why did I just do that?"

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

Gotta share.

I talked about this with a friend (my age)!at work. She had just asked for my advise on an awkward situation where her daughter had dumped a guy the rest of the family really likes, her reaction made me laugh.

"You said he's Asian, a little geeky and not weird or awkward looking, rides a motorcycle, and is single. Dude, Asian is the new Black. Young women want that intensity, that focus that only the young Asian men can give them. Passion, what woman doesn't want passion and having some young stud touch her like the keyboard of paradise. He's probably got her all hot and bothered and she's trying to get him there too."

Yes, she really talks like that. Relax, she doesn't know any of you or even the name of the forum. You didn't think I came up with all that advice all by myself did you?

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The U. S. Constitution doesn't guarantee happiness, only the pursuit of it. You have to catch up with it yourself. B. Franklin

"A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone." -- Tyrion Lannister, A Game of Thrones

There are worse problems to have.

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Holy shitsnacks!

Yea, true. Like I said, I eat 3 meals a day, have clean water and a warm and dry place to live. I still have it better than a huge chunk of the world's population. Guess I'll just be thankful for all that when I crash and burn. At least it won't be on the bike this time and I won't have to go through PT again.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

See Its all perspective.

She may be a little crazy, but then who isn't? I say enjoy it while it lasts.

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Holy shitsnacks!

I'm batshit crazy to be quite honest. It just filters out on the keyboard.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

That's not generally how a keyboard works.

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There are always exceptions. The fact I have a split second to erase things before I submit allows me to simulate a socially acceptable persona.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

Why are you worrying about it consuming your life? There's no reason you can't have relationship without it utterly consuming all your energy; if this person truly cares about you they'll understand that you need to devote time and energy to your career plans, and support you.

There's always that new relationship feeling of "OMG this is the most wonderful thing EVAR I want to spend every waking moment on it!" but that passes. As long as you're not letting other responsibilities slide to spend time with her, what's the problem?

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"Hysterical children shrieking about right-wing anything need to go sit in the corner and be quiet while the adults are talking."

The reason I bring that up is because that's what happened the last serious relationship I was in. We were almost married but the entire thing became more of a burden on both of us because we were both young and hadn't really developed our personal identities. It's really a hangover from a previous failed relationship, I suppose but it's always in the back of my mind.

Since then (2009) I haven't had anything serious with any girls, ranging from a single dates and 1 or 2 week flings to a couple months trials that eventually fizzled.

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"It's real, grew up in trife life, the times of white lines
The hype vice, murderous nighttimes and knife fights invite crimes" - Nasir Jones

In that case, I'd suggest recognizing it's a hangover, and putting aside the baggage to the best of your ability.

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"Hysterical children shrieking about right-wing anything need to go sit in the corner and be quiet while the adults are talking."