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My recitation of my friend's story is second hand. I have no reason to disbelieve her. I do believe DE is relying more on SOP and policy than addressing the issue. If it were just her I might be a little more skeptical, but it isn't just one story. It is a story repeated (with different details) by women all over the country. It is a story I have heard from different women in recovery groups over and over. Some women it destroys, some women take it in stride, and others fall in all the points of the spectrum in between. A friend at work, a retired CPO, told his daughters he would put them through college, help them start their careers, let them stay at home until they were ready to move out, as long as they did not join the service. He believes there is a major rape problem in the services. He doesn't want his daughters going through it.
Michael, I am not "relying on SOP and policy rather than addressing the issue", nor addressing the stories of "women all over the country." I'm addressing specifically this story that you decided to bring up, and the simple fact is that this story relies almost entirely on a major just happening to go to a motor pool for no apparent reason and at the same time a female mechanic working there by herself for no apparent reason. How fortuitous!
The military is a large organization - in fact, the largest single organization in the nation by numbers of personnel as far as I know. It therefore has problems. Rape does happen in the military. False accusations for various reasons also happen in the military. Many of the young women you know of have been sexually assaulted, many others had consensual sex they then determined later was rape for whatever reason, and many others are simply outright fabricating the whole thing.
As for what one retired CPO happens to believe - well, he's entitled to think what he thinks, but I can find all kinds of retired NCOs that think things that are complete hogwash. NCOs by definition are responsible for individual soldier (or sailor, for your CPO) issues and training, unless they are at VERY high levels they don't have much visibility of Army, Navy or military-wide issues. Officers, by definition, are responsible for unit issues and therefore do get that visibility much earlier on - and field-grade officers like me have been getting it for years.
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I believe DE's position is one based on belief in his fellow soldiers, that they wouldn't do such things to their own, if at all. This belief, and its accompanying disbelief in the capability of men to be evil and skirt or break the rules and the law, are what makes rape in the military disappear off the records. It can't happen by the rules, so it doesn't happen. the women must be lying because the men wouldn't or couldn't do that. Because the women are lying they can't be depended on and get forced out of any position of trust.
Then you obviously did not bother to actually read my position. Yes, this could happen, but it simply does not make much sense. It doesn't require just a rule violation or departure from procedure, it requires
everything about the situation to be completely out of the ordinary. Yes that could happen, but if I put this woman's story up against most other military rape stories, this one is near the bottom of the barrel in terms of credibility. I've made it perfectly clear, however, that rapes can and do happen in the military:
DE wrote:
it is not impossible for a major to arrange a situation where they could rape an enlisted soldier without witnesses. In fact, it isn't even terribly hard. The situation Michael described is simply not one of them.
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Sexual assault is a problem in the military,
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I can imagine a lot of scenarios under which a major could forcibly rape an enlisted soldier that do not require the coincidences this one does.
DE wrote:
There are a lot of much more plausible ways a rape in the Army could happen - this is one of the more absurd stories.
Your belief is not based on anything I've actually said, but rather on a complete and total caricature of my viewpoint. I've been perfectly clear that rapes can and do occur in the military, and you have absolutely no excuse whatsoever for believing I've said or think anything to the contrary.
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However, from every corner I hear that the good old boys network is alive and well in the services and that a lot of the senior officers are of the opinion, unofficially and off the record, that women do not belong in the service in anything resembling a combat position and are taking a spot that should have gone to a man.
I doubt very much that you have access to any "corners" at all. This bears absolutely no relation to what senior officers are saying - in fact if anything, they are pushing females in combat positions in order to avoid bad publicity.
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Life sucks, people are selfish beasts, and a percentage of men do rape, especially when the system tells them its okay and they won't get punished for it.
A percentage of women make false accusations, especially when they know they'll be implicitly believed.
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Sorry DE, but I don't believe your analysis. I think you are being naive and good-hearted, but are trusting SOP and policy and the rightness of your fellow troops way too much.
It takes a truly astounding arrogance on your part to make a statement like this. I'm coming up on 17 years of service. More importantly, I actually deal with this stuff. As a company commander I was required to maintain a unit Sexual Harassment and Assault Prevention Policy. I was required to make sure I had a trained SHARP representative, and to ensure that annual training on SHARP was provided to every soldier in my command. If a sexual assault had been reported, I had extensive regulatory requirements for what I would have had to do to deal with it - and failing to follow them could have had serious consequences for me.
Now that I'm the battalion XO, I am responsible for holding the company commanders' feet to the fire on this issue, just like on other issues. I am responsible for making sure the battalion staff executes its responsibilities in this regard- just like I am responsible for the staff in every other regard. Sexual assault is a
huge issue in the military - keeping up with this stuff is not trivial, and since the XO speaks with the commanders' voice and is the commander's hatchet man so to speak, I deal with the details of managing this issue for the battalion commander - along with a great deal of other stuff.
I don't think you really grasp just how much time I spend dealing with Army issues. This is not some **** hobby for me; it's a whole second career I've been working on for 17 years. As far as I know you've never even signed so much as an enlistment paper, so don't come in here telling me I'm "naïve" because I don't believe everything every young female says or because some retired CPO said differently. I get this **** all the time; people think because they have friends or relatives in the military that they know all about it. You don't, any more than I have any business performing medical diagnosis just because I have a couple relatives who are doctors, and especially not when you can't even be bothered to read and understand my position in the first place.
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The incident, whatever happened that she calls rape, did happen in Germany.
When people deployed in foreign areas get "Dear John" letters, do you actually think the first thing they do is nip off to the maintenance area?
This isn't merely about technical violations of the rules - the behavior of the major is truly bizarre in this story. It isn't even the idea that he sexually assaulted someone out of anger - what's bizarre is that he gets a letter from his wife breaking up with him, decides for some reason to go to the motor pool (really? WTF?) and then inexplicably there's a female mechanic working all alone!
The entire combination of events is just a total non-sequiter. It just does not add up.