This is the most salient take on the matter I've seen.
Jim Butcher wrote:
Personally, I'm of the belief that cliches are entirely relative to how well they're utilized. If you screw it up, it's a cliche. If you use it properly, it undergoes a mystic transformation into an archetype.
If I wrote a story about an apprentice-wizard farmboy, an old wizard, a princess, a pirate, a dark knight and a talking bear, and there's a dark castle and a mission to save the princess, the audience reaction to it is going to be based on how well executed the story is, not on how tired people might think the common plot elements are. Done wrong, it's some bit of horrible pulp that rots on an assistant editor's floor. Done right, it's Star Wars.
"Done right" generally means adding a thin coat of paint to the tired old bits, so that they look shiny and new. It's silly, but that thin coat of paint is important. I mean, it helps you flip a house for ridiculous amounts of profit, right? Same thing with stories.
Maybe I'm personally embittered, but in my experience, most people who scream about tired plot devices and sneer about exactly where something was derived from have got kind of an inward focus, and don't bother to actually think about whether or not they might be right, because they're really busy /wanting/ to be right. So the usual move is to say "THIS SUCKS, HE STOLE IT FROM X." X is generally the most recent example of something close to whatever it is he wants to tear down, and never mind that the X he's thinking of was generally stolen, and obviously so, from a previous source, which took it from a previous source which took it from a previous source, etc, etc.
The best example I've ever heard of this kind of thinking: A friend of my son's who asked me who I was listening to while I was washing dishes. I said, "That, m'boy, is Twist and Shout by the Beatles." He screws up his face and goes, "Ah, the Beatles suck. They sound just like everybody else."
He was a child, I reminded myself. He was eleven. Must not kill him. It's ignorance. Forgive him for he knows not what he does. And in my magnificent forgiveness, I turned the stereo WAY up and went back to the dishes