Wwen wrote:
Absurd. You can't reason with a smaller children. They don't understand the consequences of their actions. You can explain to them the wisdom of not running out into the street until you are blue in the face, but they understand don't-do-that-or I'll-get-spanked. Young kids are wimps anyway, you don't have to hit em hard and theyll probably cry like banshees.
That's true. With older kids, even into early-mid teens, there's a lot to be said for a spanking too. It gets the punishment over right then and there, whereas "time outs" are silly at this age, and lengthy punishments like taking away TV, video games, or the computer, or a grounding, are a burden on the whole family.
They basically turn the house into a jail, the parent into a corrections officer, and the child into an inmate, and the ongoing punishment hangs over everyone in the house. The parent has to constantly supervise to make sure the kid isn't sneaking around the punishment, and the kid constantly nags that they learned their lesson, can't I just go here, blah blah blah. A spanking may be painful and humiliating but I think most older kids would, if they really thought about it, rather have a punishment that lasts 5-10 minutes and lets them go do what they want afterwards as opposed to one that drags on for days.
The thing to remember though, is that after the spanking the parent needs to be careful to remember that the incident is behind them. If the kid wants to discuss it more, fine, but the parent should treat the matter as over, and the child forgiven now hat the consequence has been administered. In some cases a short stay in their room, maybe an hour or two tops, might be appropriate for them to calm down and think about why they were punished but again, after that, the matter should not be revisited, and the parent must not show any sign of lingering thoughts about what happened.