Hug, kiss and tell your SO (and children as applicable) you love them every day.
Be dependable and on time.
Feel good about yourself, your relationship and you job. (And if you don't make a change to fix it).
When setting goals, think about the best case scenario, it's a great place to start.
Always be willing to share your table or home, especially at the hoildays. Always offer at least twice, some people are slow to accept kind gestures.
These concepts and quotes are stole from R. A. Heinlein.
When asked about how he could be paid back from helping a friend, "You can’t," he said. "You don’t pay back, you pay forward."
"Sin lies only in hurting others unnecessarily. All other "sins" are invented nonsense. (Hurting yourself is not sinful —just stupid.)"
"You can have peace. Or you can have freedom. Don't ever count on having both at once."
"Never appeal to a man's "better nature." He may not have one. Invoking his self-interest gives you more leverage."
"Take sides! Always take sides! You will sometimes be wrong — but the man who refuses to take sides must always be wrong."
"The 3-legged stool of understanding is held up by history, languages, and mathematics. Equipped with these three you can learn anything you want to learn. But if you lack any one of them you are just another ignorant peasant with dung on your boots."
"A "critic" is a man who creates nothing and thereby feels qualified to judge the work of creative men. There is logic in this; he is unbiased — he hates all creative people equally."
"When any government, or any church for that matter, undertakes to say to its subjects, "This you may not read, this you must not see, this you are forbidden to know," the end result is tyranny and oppression, no matter how holy the motives. Mighty little force is needed to control a man whose mind has been hoodwinked; contrariwise, no amount of force can control a free man, a man whose mind is free. No, not the rack, not fission bombs, not anything — you can't conquer a free man; the most you can do is kill him."
For all the cat haters (which I used to be one, until we got the right cat, 16 years and counting) also from Heinlein: "How you behave toward cats here below determines your status in Heaven."
And finally (also from Heinlein):
I said that "Patriotism" is a way of saying "Women and children first." And that no one can force a man to feel this way. Instead he must embrace it freely. I want to tell about one such man. He wore no uniform and no one knows his name, or where he came from; all we know is what he did. In my home town sixty years ago when I was a child, my mother and father used to take me and my brothers and sisters out to Swope Park on Sunday afternoons. It was a wonderful place for kids, with picnic grounds and lakes and a zoo. But a railroad line cut straight through it. One Sunday afternoon a young married couple were crossing these tracks. She apparently did not watch her step, for she managed to catch her foot in the frog of a switch to a siding and could not pull it free. Her husband stopped to help her. But try as they might they could not get her foot loose. While they were working at it, a tramp showed up, walking the ties. He joined the husband in trying to pull the young woman's foot loose. No luck — Out of sight around the curve a train whistled. Perhaps there would have been time to run and flag it down, perhaps not. In any case both men went right ahead trying to pull her free ... and the train hit them. The wife was killed, the husband was mortally injured and died later, the tramp was killed — and testimony showed that neither man made the slightest effort to save himself. The husband's behavior was heroic ... but what we expect of a husband toward his wife: his right, and his proud privilege, to die for his woman. But what of this nameless stranger? Up to the very last second he could have jumped clear. He did not. He was still trying to save this woman he had never seen before in his life, right up to the very instant the train killed him. And that's all we'll ever know about him. This is how a man dies. This is how a man ... lives!
_________________ Gorse
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